FELLOW LADY, SHALL WE CONTINUE LIKE THIS? FINAL PART BY OLUWABUNMI AREGBESOLA Charm is deceitful,beauty is vain but the woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised. And to your beauty, add brain. To your brain, add virtue. To your virtue, add godliness. To your godliness, add contentment. Over the years, I have always seen beautiful ladies who you can't pass by and not take a second look. I admire beautiful ladies a lot but a woman who is only beautiful outside, I don't dwell much with them. I pity those men whose first criteria for a wife is beauty. They will be disappointed when they bring beauty without godliness home. She will frustrate such a man. I have met one or two women in my life who didn't possess much physical beauty but what endeared me to them was the kind of life they live. You can't be with them and your life remain the same. They are women whose souls are beautiful, who are virtuous and are of excellent report. This is be...

GOD IS NOT EVIL BY OLUWABUNMI AREGBESOLA We should be able to entrust our lives into the hands of God. God's plans toward you are good and not of evil. If He has called you, do not be  afraid of tomorrow for He designed tomorrow. Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding. God's word says His thoughts towards you are thoughts of peace and not of evil. Anywhere the Lord ask you to go, you should not question or doubt him. Our prayer per time should be that God align us to his will. Our will should be conformed to His will, if we want to walk worthy of his calling. Each time I study the life of Abraham, whom God instructed to leave his kindred and go to wheresoever he commanded him to go and he left without questioning God further, I am always awed. Do you think it was easy for him? But he knew and he was sure that it was God so he wasn't afraid of following Him. That should be our quest. Jes...

DON'T LET THE DEVIL ROB YOU; ENGAGE YOUR MIND BY OLUWABUNMI AREGBESOLA   Have you been to a program before and you see almost everybody connected except you? You seem to be far away. You can't forget at the moment, the appointment you need to keep with someone.  The memory of the delicacy you prepared at home is fresh. You remember your undone chores at home, to cap it up, you can't but ruminate on the pleasant memories you have had with someone special.  While the prayer is going on, your mouth keeps moving but you heart seems to have journeyed far. You are like " what's really happening to me? " In short, you might be energetically praying but you know your mind is far. People closer might even be awed by your aggressiveness in prayer whereas, you are disconnected from the source.  The devil couldn't prevent you from going to church but he succeeded in engaging your mind with matters that could wait after the meeting.  Don't le...

TIME WAITS FOR NO ONE BY OLUWABUNMI AREGBESOLA There is virtually no day I will log in into my facebook account that I won't see something new. All I see is progress! No one is stagnant. Time will never wait for you, no matter how important you may be.  There are some times I see some folks upload pictures of their convocation. At other times, I see some upload matriculation pictures. Everyone is making progress and of course am happy about that. Such and such we will continue to witness (Amen).  There are times I see some folks upload their pre- wedding pictures. They look so admirable. At other times, I see folks upload their wedding pictures or their wedding anniversary pictures. They are still obeying time. There are times I see some folks upload their pregnancy pictures and at the same time, I see some other folks upload the pictures of their new born baby. At other times, I see parents celebrate the birthday of their children.  There ...

STOP AND PONDER! BY OLUWABUNMI AREGBESOLA During my undergraduate days, I went for a night reading after an hectic day. I slept all through the night and woke up around 6am the following morning. Smiles... I took my bag and went back to my hostel. People who saw me were like, " you are strong o, you read all through  the night. " You know someone who hasn't been reading will be intimidated seeing me, whereas I slept all through the night. I should have not bothered myself going to read that night if I knew I would sleep off. Of what essence is my going for night reading if I didn't get to study even if it was just an hour.  When I attend some programs, I see folks who are not even in the media crew but are too engrossed with the covering of the program. You can never see them participate in any of the programs.  Ask them what they gained in the program, they will bring out their phones to show you a video clip of what they covered as an evide...

THE HELP OF THE HELPLESS BY OLUWABUNMI AREGBESOLA If you do not help me, what will be my end? Day and night, I wait for you. You know my end right from the beginning. Though I have no slightest ideas of what I can do tomorrow, but you know my frailty. If you leave me to my folly, I will perish without help. If you refuse to offer me help, I am finished. You formed me from my mother's womb and you called me by name. Joseph was thrown into a deep well by his own. Looking down from the pit won't bring him out because beneath is devoid of hope. He chose to look up to you and you brought him help. He was sold by his blood yet he chose to look to you for help. He was sentenced to prison for the crime he never committed, yet he looked to you for help. The help of the helpless came to his rescue and he became a prime minister in a strange land. Though he lacked the help of man but the help of the helpless connected him. I lift up my eyes to t...

FELLOW LADY, SHALL WE CONTINUE LIKE THIS? PART 4 BY OLUWABUNMI AREGBESOLA Today, some of my fellow ladies chase after a gentleman though they know he is engaged. You have received pass mark for your cooking skills from him. You beam with smiles each time he commends you. To him, you are just a friend but to you, you have an assignment. When bro gives you his wedding invitation card, you say he is wicked.  Why do you have to cling yourself to the gentleman like Ruth? Why must you continue to stab your fellow lady at the back? Even if he is not engaged, why do you have to keep running after him?  It is true other bros are approaching you for marriage but you already have an idol in your heart. That idol is that man who is already engaged. You have been looking for a way to get into his heart and dispose your fellow lady. Is that not wickedness?  Presentation of gift is good but why is that it is only bro you get them for? You have never bought any ...

FELLOW LADY, SHALL WE CONTINUE LIKE THIS? PART 3 The only time you gather yourself up to pray is in the day of difficulty. You embark on a 3-day Marathon fasting because he asked for your hand in marriage whereas you have never fasted till 12noon before. That is when you begin to memorize Scriptures, going from one prophet to the other asking them to help you pray on different names.  It's not funny today seeing some fellow ladies loose interest in other inspiring messages except relationship talks or articles. Fellow lady,can I remind you we need to experience growth in every facet of our lives? When you see one kind man whom God has really worked upon, you begin to pray that he is the one. Don't forget you don't even have a meeting point with God. Fellow lady, God is not wicked that He would connect you to His dear son whom he has made. He won't allow you to come near him because you will kill him spiritually. If the man has sight...

THERE IS NO BETTER TIME TO LIVE RESPONSIBLY THAN NOW BY OLUWABUNMI AREGBESOLA Has anyone ever told you before that you are irresponsible? That word is heartrending! When you commit anything into the hands of an irresponsible man, including his own life, he will definitely fail.  An irresponsible man will always have unfinished projects. There is no how he will be fulfilled. He can never be trusted with an assignment. Such will always have excuses to back up his negligence. To him, he has all the time, whereas the bible says "For everything under the sun, there is time and season. " You can't wake up an irresponsible man to intercede for others. His response will be " if they like, let them perish." He cannot be held accountable for anything.  There is no time a irresponsible man will get serious with God. He is never consistent. He may be up and doing today but tomorrow, he is down.  I don't want the people who are connected to me ever...

LET THERE BE NO DISPARITY AMONG YOUR CHILDREN; EACH CHILD IS UNIQUE BY OLUWABUNMI AREGBESOLA I have a family in Ibadan from where I drink from, they are my spiritual parents. We are all treated equally not minding whether you are biological or spiritual to them. Oh how I love them! There should be no disparity between your children. No child is of less importance, each child is unique in his own way. Treat them equally and do not compare a child with another. If you enhance disparity between your own children, what is the fate of those children who aren't your blood but who found their way into your home maybe because of circumstances? Learn how to celebrate their uniqueness, no two children are the same. Tope may be perfect in doing household chores while Dayo may not be doing good in that area. Discover the strength of Dayo, he might be good at some other things. Though that does not mean you shouldn't teach your children how to do things on their own beca...

BREAKING ADDICTIONS OF WRONG SEXUAL THOUGHT 2 BY OLUWABUNMI AREGBESOLA It is true you are a virgin but those shameful things you fellowship with in your closet can't be declared opened to the public. You know you masturbate when you are all alone. You engage in this in order to suppress that burning desire in you. I bet it with you, you need freedom. You can't count how many times you get wet simply because of that burning sensation even while ministering. Seeing anything in skirt, you lose your senses. Seeing his six packs, you go insane. Without mincing words, you are sexually addicted and you need to be free. You and I know if you continue this way, you are wasting away. If you are enslaved, how will you help those who are in bondage? Since you are patient in following this post to the end, you desire freedom. Ways out: 1: What are those things you feed your eyes on? Please discard those materials that may arouse you. Burn those things that can be burn...

BREAKING ADDICTIONS OF WRONG SEXUAL THOUGHT 1 BY OLUWABUNMI AREGBESOLA That moment when your eyes stay glued to the porn site and you can't just get your eyes off to feed on other stuffs that could help your life. You seem to be helpless and addicted. You can't explain the mystery behind your constant urge to look. Search your heart dear, you know you are enslaved and want to be free.  You can't give a concrete explanation why you crave for sex. Your hormones are super active and you can't stay calm when that beauty passes by. You just want to have a taste of it. At first, you thought you would just have a bite and bid goodbye but you discover you are now enslaved.  If you do not meet with any man dear aunty, you feel you can't survive it. It is true you decided to shun him off when he pays you another visit but you discover you fall sheepishly into his trap each time. You are addicted and you need to be free.  You have lost counts how many times...

FELLOW LADY, SHALL WE CONTINUE LIKE THIS PART 2? BY OLUWABUNMI AREGBESOLA Dear, the only thing you know about social media is posting pictures and getting thousands of likes. You are wowed when they remind you of your beauty. You don't know that there are other stuffs you can lay hold on that may be beneficial to you. You can't download books that can help you grow spiritually since you complain you could not afford hard copy? Spiritual songs and videos are available for free download but your data is meant for downloading irrelevant things. The sites you feed your eyes with are shameful that you can't encourage younger ones to also visit. The only books you have in your library is on how to attract Mr right, ten ways to love him, one hundred ways to be a good wife, the list is endless. We can never see books like: purpose driven life, growing up spiritually, daughter of destiny and so on. When I was a teenager, anytime I hear guys calling me while ...

FELLOW LADY, SHALL WE CONTINUE LIKE THIS PART 1? BY OLUWABUNMI AREGBESOLA Fellow lady, if the only thing we think about is how our wedding will look like, how our spouses will caress us, how our children will be calling us mummy, we are totally undone for. It is a great disaster if all you wake up to plan for is your wedding that will hold 2020. You already downloaded all the materials you will be needing, your ladies in wardrobe are all set but you are not planning for marriage. Necessary materials that can groom you up for marriage, you don't get to see them, all what you are concerned is wedding that will come and go. Please help me ask those who spent millions of naira to hold a classic wedding but were not adequately groomed for marriage are today? Help me ask from them if they are actually enjoying or enduring their marriage. Any marriage not founded on the rock which is Jesus will end in mirage. Fellow lady, thank God you can cook but where are your v...

DON'T GIVE THE DEVIL AN INCH BY OLUWABUNMI AREGBESOLA He is the chief commander of the army! What a great task that was committed into his hands? He was supposed to lead the warriors to the battle front but he decided to take some break. At least, he has been up and doing all this while, he should chill and enjoy the moment.  It was a hot afternoon, the beauty to behold wanted to have a cool bath. Lo and behold, while he was enjoying the cool breeze in the verandah, he saw her. Who would not want to taste of this? He said to himself. He gave an order and she was brought to him. Oh my my! He enjoyed the moment.  Few months after, she came with the pregnancy scan test. The beauty is pregnant! I even remember your husband is at the battle field. He will not slack at anytime, he is an active warrior who won't be at home when he is supposed to be at the war front.  Okay! You can go back home, but please don't abort my baby. I will definitely find a way out....

thetrailblazerslive.blogspot.com WHEREVER YOU GO, I WILL GO BY OLUWABUNMI AREGBESOLA He stays, I stay and he leaves, I leave also. Please tell me who you have come to seek? Pastor or God? If you have come to seek your pastor, when he leaves the church, you also pack your Bible to follow him wheresoever he goes. To you, no one else can fill his vacuum but to God, no one is indispensable. He is the driving force behind your enormous contribution to the church. He is the reason why you can't skip programmes. So when he leaves, you can't flow with others. You find everything boring. Sincerely, it shouldn't be like that. I don't pray this happens, but when he is suspended for some misdeeds, instead of him to humbly accept the suspension and serve his punishment, he goes somewhere else to start his own church. You say you pity him and you decided to join him there.  If truly you have come to fellowship with God and the brethren, please stay and enjo...

DEAR MINISTER, DON'T GET DISTRACTED BY UNNECESSARY ATTENTION BY OLUWABUNMI AREGBESOLA Days when I was not as matured as this, i mean spiritually, when I preach to someone and I see that person crying, I will be so glad thinking my message touched them which in turn made them start crying. I couldn't believe it when I see them days after enjoying their old life. That they wept do not actually portray their repentance. Someone who didn't soak his clothes with tears but got the message is better than that person who broke down in tears as a result of emotional stress. Dear minister, please don't be moved when some people are slain under the anointing during your ministration. It doesn't mean they really got encountered, some fell because they couldn't sustain their emotions,they just had to express it through some kind of display. Don't be too happy when you see some rolling on the floor and shouting during your ministrations, when they stand...

MAY ALL WHO COME BEHIND US, FIND US FAITHFUL BY OLUWABUNMI AREGBESOLA Whosoever has served in one capacity or the other as a leader before will understand that how we led the team has a way of reflecting in our successor in the future. Consciously or unconsciously, we are contributing something to our generation either it is positive or negative.  What will be said of us when our generation is passed? Will they not tell stories of our unfaithfulness while in service?  There are some patriarchs of faith that have passed on but their works speak after them. If they had lived carelessly, we won't dare refer to them today.  We all remember the story of Paul the Apostle for good today. If you see any Christian not reading his epistles, such will not be able to understand new creation realities. He was confident to say after his whole journey "I have finished my course."  Who won't remember the story of Dinah? she passed her boundary to visit the d...