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FELLOW LADY, SHALL WE CONTINUE LIKE THIS? PART 4 BY OLUWABUNMI AREGBESOLA


FELLOW LADY, SHALL WE CONTINUE LIKE THIS? PART 4 BY OLUWABUNMI AREGBESOLA

Today, some of my fellow ladies chase after a gentleman though they know he is engaged. You have received pass mark for your cooking skills from him. You beam with smiles each time he commends you. To him, you are just a friend but to you, you have an assignment. When bro gives you his wedding invitation card, you say he is wicked. 


Why do you have to cling yourself to the gentleman like Ruth? Why must you continue to stab your fellow lady at the back? Even if he is not engaged, why do you have to keep running after him? 


It is true other bros are approaching you for marriage but you already have an idol in your heart. That idol is that man who is already engaged. You have been looking for a way to get into his heart and dispose your fellow lady. Is that not wickedness? 


Presentation of gift is good but why is that it is only bro you get them for? You have never bought any for your female counterpart. What is the motive for your reckless spending? Is it not to get a space in the gentleman's heart? 


Let's have a heart to heart talk. Stop doing "notice me." All those times you do the chasing for bro, please chase after God and the right man will come chasing after you. 


You are not a common material! 
You are not a trash bin! 
You are not to be trampled by men. 


Fellow lady, shall we continue like this...? 
To be continued... 

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