HOW I NARROWLY ESCAPED RAPE Okay, before you go on, I am sending a big hug to you if you are a rape victim. I know it's not easy forgetting the ugly incidence but I want to tell you to let go of the past. I am not here to point accusing finger at you for whatever happened in the past. The past is past. Let your new you emerge. Come to love yourself. Forgive yourself. Forgive that person who defiled you. Let God wrap you in His arms.  Majority of rape incidence happens because of the carelessness on the part of the lady. A lady who's frequenting a guy's house in odd hours may not return the same way she came if she's not careful. We can't also overlook the fact that some guys are monsters. They are wolves in sheep's clothing. They may appear harmless but they are like serpents. May God arrests their hearts.   One day Dinah, Leah's daughter, went to visit some of the young women who lived in the area. But when the local prince, Shechem son of ...

SEX DOES NOT HAPPEN BY ACCIDENT  A whole lot of things must have been conceived  in your mind before indulging in sex.  That act you carried out was as a result of a lot of mental works that you have carried out in your mind before you finally carried it out.  Here are things to know before sex can actually happen between two people outside wedlock, rape situations excluded please.  1. Men generally, are moved by what they see. So, when a guy visits you and the next thing you do is  to expose your cleavages, wear bum shorts, with just the two of you behind closed doors, honestly speaking, that guy would have a whole lot of dirty things going on in his mind. You are inviting him either consciously or unconsciously.  2. Women generally, are turned on by sweet words spoken to them by men. Yes, we love it when we hear how amazing we are, how pretty we are. When a particular guy showers you with incessant praises, you tend to fall...

BRO, GIVE ATTENTION TO PERSONAL HYGIENE TOO NOT ALL SISTERS WILL ACCOMODATE YOUR EXCESSES ©TRAILBLAZER AREGBESOLA BUNMI So I entered keke and I sat at the back. A guy entered later and sat at the front. He raised his armpit and come and see the foul smell that came out of those armpits. It was bushy and at the same time smelling. I climbed another bike, only for me to discover that the bike man's head was smelling. He kept long hair but it was not tidy. I was like oh my! Bro, who asked you to keep long hair when you know you can't take good care of it? Who asked you to keep beards when you know you can'maintain it?_  Hey bro! When last did you shave your armpits? Nothing irritates me than offensive smell and I know not all women love unpleasant smell. Also, you don't need to wear that shirt again when it is stained with sweats from your armpits after wearing it for the first time. Please wash before you wear next. You will even be comfortable in...

MARRIAGE IS NOT THE NEXT ON THE LIST BY TRAILBLAZER AREGBESOLA BUNMI You see all those people who want to get married to a sister simply because they can't go on to cook, or do their laundry by themselves, or they want to cure loneliness: they are not ready to get married for a good[the right] reason.  Those who are seriously preparing to get married just because of the reasons above will only see the woman as an housemaid. They won't come to appreciate the precious gift of God to them.  A guy on my friend list on facebook wrote sometime ago that he wanted to get married because he couldn't cook anymore. I was surprised. Our brother's need at that time wasn't a wife but an understanding of what marriage is all about.  As a dignified single, you should be able to cater for yourself now.  You shouldn't be lazy. Get things done by yourself. Learn to cook simple meals. Do not go for junks instead. Wash and iron your clothes neatly. Learn how t...

COVETOUSNESS IS NOT ALLOWED BY TRAILBLAZER AREGBESOLA BUNMI  It is simply flirting when you begin to imagine someone to be your partner when you already have yours. Contentment is a virtue everyone who goes into relationships must possess otherwise, such will be playing in and out of every relationship.  As you move on in life, it is not unlikely that you see some characteristics in a person which is lacking in your partner. If you are the type who is not contented, you begin to secretly admire the person. If care is not taken, you will begin to flirt with the person. When those advances are not checked, lust sets in and when lust finds its way, the devil is already making a headway.  Without controversy, your partner has some enviable characters which others are praying for. Discover that first and be thankful for that.  You are meant to complement each other. Comparison is dangerous in relationships. You've got to be contented.  ...

RED FLAGS YOU MUST WATCH OUT FOR IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP BY TRAILBLAZER AREGBESOLA BUNMI There are some people who got married thinking they would change their spouse after marriage but it has never been the case. What you have been noticing now may never change if you don't talk about it immediately. That is why you don't say love is blind and thereby neglect vital issues that need attention now. One of the attributes of love is not that it is blind but that it suffers long. Love bears all things, love reproves. So the fact that you can see the wrongs now, love can still make you to reprove without any selfish interest. When you are being taken for granted now that you are still courting, he or she can never respect you when you are married. There should be respect from both parties. When I say respect, I don't mean the lady should be kneeling down to greet the man neither should the man begin to call her aunty. You should treat one another with dignity and h...

WOO LIKE A GENTLEMAN BY TRAILBLAZER AREGBEOLA BUNMI A young man wanted to propose to a lady sometime ago, he called her to a secluded place, led her in some prayers, asked her some funny questions before going straight to the point. He was like, "I want you to pray about it and give me response." Which kind of response do you want after the whole prayer? If I were the one, I would give him the response immediately.  And that was how a brother approached me one time like that. He shared the Scriptures with me for like thirty minutes before he declared his intentions. I think he even called me for Bible study though I knew it wasn't his intention. Don't ask me what ensued. 😀😀 Some will even approach a sister, tell her the visions they saw and still ask her to pray about it. What do you want her to still pray about? Why did you share the vision hurriedly, is it not to convince her that you were the right person for her?  Bro, you don't need to ...

LET THEM KNOW YOUR STAND BY TRAILBLAZER AREGBESOLA BUNMI While I was publicizing my new book (Maximizing your single days and beyond) on the social media, I said I was single. Though I was seeing it from a different point of view due to the information I wanted to pass across about the book, some misquoted me. One of the people I respected so much said, it was better I add my engagement status to save myself from unnecessary distraction.   I saw messages popping in. Messages like, "hello babe", someone even said, "don't worry, even if you have nobody, I will take you in." I was like "I don enter am. " Thank God for wisdom in attending to the issue. Later added my engagement status to the article.  Majority of those who are shy in declaring their engagement status when asked is because they are still looking for a better option. They are not satisfied with what they have. They are in search of someone better.  If what brought ...