RED FLAGS YOU MUST WATCH OUT FOR IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP BY TRAILBLAZER AREGBESOLA BUNMI
There are some people who got married thinking they would change their spouse after marriage but it has never been the case. What you have been noticing now may never change if you don't talk about it immediately. That is why you don't say love is blind and thereby neglect vital issues that need attention now.
One of the attributes of love is not that it is blind but that it suffers long. Love bears all things, love reproves. So the fact that you can see the wrongs now, love can still make you to reprove without any selfish interest.
When you are being taken for granted now that you are still courting, he or she can never respect you when you are married. There should be respect from both parties. When I say respect, I don't mean the lady should be kneeling down to greet the man neither should the man begin to call her aunty. You should treat one another with dignity and honour. You should not be seen as inferior to him or her.
When you are engaged to someone and all their discussions are centered on issues that can lure you into temptation. When you come closer to such, their presence promote lust. They are not their brother's keeper. There is nothing like boundary to them in courtship. Please escape from such.
When they can't commend your little kindness now, forget it when you are married and you build a mansion for such, he or she would not see any reason to be thankful.
When they find it difficult to use these words:
"I am sorry."
"Please."
They are too proud to come down from their Carmel to say sorry even when they are wrong. It hurts their pride to say sorry. You need to watch out now because marriage will not change such person.
If they are not spiritually sound now, don't expect a miracle to happen later on. Someone who you need to remind to pray or study the Scriptures will grow wings after the wedding. He or she might even turn it to fight if you ask them to do so later.
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