HOW I NARROWLY ESCAPED RAPE Okay, before you go on, I am sending a big hug to you if you are a rape victim. I know it's not easy forgetting the ugly incidence but I want to tell you to let go of the past. I am not here to point accusing finger at you for whatever happened in the past. The past is past. Let your new you emerge. Come to love yourself. Forgive yourself. Forgive that person who defiled you. Let God wrap you in His arms.  Majority of rape incidence happens because of the carelessness on the part of the lady. A lady who's frequenting a guy's house in odd hours may not return the same way she came if she's not careful. We can't also overlook the fact that some guys are monsters. They are wolves in sheep's clothing. They may appear harmless but they are like serpents. May God arrests their hearts.   One day Dinah, Leah's daughter, went to visit some of the young women who lived in the area. But when the local prince, Shechem son of ...

YES! WE NEED ENCOURAGEMENT TOO Whenever myself and one of my mentors are engaged in a discussion, he is not afraid of telling me where he has failed. I know it takes humility for someone whom you are looking up to open up to you points he once failed. When you see someone who's not afraid to tell you they were not able to meet up to God's  expectations at one time when you are actually looking up to them, please celebrate them. It takes a man who has allowed God to work on him to do that. That is by the way. When we ask some people how they were able to arrive at a point, they say different things like "It's God, I am suprised too. I was able to attaim this height because I fasted for 3 good years." They have never shared their dark times before. They make their proteges look at them like they don't even "fart" at all. Yes, there are days I wake up and I don't feel like praying. There have been days I didn't feel like...

THESE ARE THE THINGS YOU MUST KNOW BEFORE JANUARY ENDS Some people will be so occupied with this festive season and will still claim they are still in the mood thereby postponing when they need to start praying.  Some will have the believe that the year just started and that they still have the whole ELEVEN more months that can be more than enough to crush their goals. The truth of the matter is that if you are not serious now, you won't be surprised when December comes and you are yet to do anything worthwhile with your life.  Some believe they have to rest for the whole of January. They don't want to get involved in any thing. They have forgotten that early starters have an edge over others in life. They do not understand the concept behind rising up early when others are busy whiling away time.  It's still January, roll up your sleeves and get to work. Do not wait till March before you start crushing your goals.  Do not wait till your ...

GET RID OF  THAT RECORD Recently, someone was telling me how her aged father still keeps record of people who had wronged him in the past in spite of his age. According to her, he has a diary where he records the names of anyone who steps on his toes.  It makes me to recollect how mum also told me how  she was a pro at keeping records of wrongs before she got born again. She would write the date, the name of the person and the offence of the person. Thank God, she does not do that anymore. She burnt the books and chose to move on.  I remember the same thing wanted to become my habit several years ago when I kept record of how someone offended me. It's still in my diary of that year. But I understood it early in life and had to stop the act.  What keeping records of wrong doings of people do to you is to cut you off the plans of God. Matthew 6 :12 says "forgive us our trespasses even as we forgive those who trespass against us". In other word...

OVERCOMING GUILT This is a follow up to the part of which I asked you to forgive yourself and move ahead in the GET RID OF THAT RECORD post.  If you had read my book; maximizing your single days and beyond, You must have read the part where I said I wanted to miss it during my teenage stage but thank God for God and my mum whose words kept on ringing in my heart. Lest I forget, when you have godly parents, you are favoured.  I did some things then which I am not in anyway proud of. When I sit back to remember those times, not for guilt sake though, I am always like was I alright then sha?  Those times when I didn't understand Romans 8:1, I blamed myself so much. I lived in guilt for sometimes. I couldn't bring myself to telling people what I did. Of course, I wasn't engaged in sex but I was engaged in activities that could lead to sex.  For several years, I blamed myself for being so foolish those times. But a day came that the understand...

FEW TIPS TO HELP YOU PLAN YOUR RETREAT  I know a blogger who shuts down her blog for sometime in a year just to go and hear from God again, get new instructions and receive strength for the journey ahead. When she comes up with a new story, people are left amazed at the source of the inspiration behind her stories  because they seem too loaded for an ordinary man to fathom.   . . Retreat is not something we should take with levity hands. It's a time set aside to seek God and hear Him for the next phase of our lives. It's a time to review our goals and see if we are making progress. It's a time set apart to be energised for the journey ahead.  . . You could consider getting these things amidst others  1. A journal and a functional pen 2. Bible  3. Good music.  4. Audio messages  5. Beverages if you are embarking on a marathon fast alongside the retreat.  And finally,  6. Your whole being. Yeah, be t...

2020 IN VIEW "As a general rule, the most successful man in life is the man who has the best information." Benjamin Disraeli A mentor spent more than an hour with me on phone giving me instructions on how to live my 2020 , I was  struck by one of the instructions he gave me. "Get books in that area you wish to develop in the forthcoming year. If you were constrained by your financies, get books that can help you in that area ." I already have four major areas of my life I want to address in the forthcoming year.  Write your visions down. Have a set goal. There is nothing like I have the goals on my head. When you have your visions in black and white, there is something it does for you, it keeps you on track so that you don't run another man's vision. It makes you accountable. Write the visions down that you may run with it.  Get books to groom you on relationships, spirituality, career wise and in all walks of life. Readers are leade...