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OVERCOMING GUILT





OVERCOMING GUILT

This is a follow up to the part of which I asked you to forgive yourself and move ahead in the GET RID OF THAT RECORD post. 


If you had read my book; maximizing your single days and beyond, You must have read the part where I said I wanted to miss it during my teenage stage but thank God for God and my mum whose words kept on ringing in my heart. Lest I forget, when you have godly parents, you are favoured.  I did some things then which I am not in anyway proud of. When I sit back to remember those times, not for guilt sake though, I am always like was I alright then sha? 

Those times when I didn't understand Romans 8:1, I blamed myself so much. I lived in guilt for sometimes. I couldn't bring myself to telling people what I did. Of course, I wasn't engaged in sex but I was engaged in activities that could lead to sex. 

For several years, I blamed myself for being so foolish those times. But a day came that the understanding of 2 Corinthians 5:17 and Romans 8:1 dawned on me. Then I started living my life for God. I no longer blamed myself. I saw how a new born baby had no past. Wow, it was so real to me. My past has been redeemed.  I am even grateful to God for catching me earlier in life. 

Recently, I was in a meeting where I spoke to teenagers. I shared with them my past failures. This was not done out of self pity, but to share with them how God helped me and how He is readily available to HELP them at this critical stage of their lives. 

As far as I am concerned, THE PAST IS PAST. That's what God's word say to me. I don't need your validation to prove this. God said it, I believe it. BELIEVE IT TOO. 

One of the issues of mankind is that we always want to DO. We don't like it when we are told we don't need to do anything to get something. It cuts across every sector you can think of. Most believers feel they have to do something to be accepted by God. So, when God says THE PAST IS PAST, they don't want to just bring themselves to  believing it. They feel something should be left to do. But you, you've got to believe it just as it was said. 

I can no longer be held by my past. I don't live in condemnation. I am free because Christ has made me free. 

These are the things you need to do to get rid of guilt. 

1. There is therefore now, no condemnation to them who are in Christ Jesus. Romans 8:1. So far you are Christ, there is no more condemnation for you. You are free. It didn't end there. There is need for you not to walk in flesh but in the Spirit. If you decide to walk in the flesh, trust me, you will be in perpetual state of guilt. How I wish I never did this will always be your song. 

2. Be an ardent reader of the word. Pray and pray. What the word of God does to you is to purge you and prune you. Prayer releases the strength you need. 

3. Go for therapy sessions if you need that. Tell a counsellor about it. Alaina Brubaker defined Therapy as a commitment to yourself and to opening yourself up to someone else; being willing to trust someone enough to let them into your life and learn from each other. This may be needed if such person is a rape victim. Therapy sessions will help you get rid of trauma, overcome your fears and make you see reasons why you need to forgive yourself.

4. Know this: You cannot rewind the past. The past is right behind you. It does not make your future. Today is a brand new day, cheer up!

5. As far as God is concerned, He has forgiven you. So, what's the stress? You've got to move ahead. 

5. Know lastly, the devil is a defeated foe. He knows he has failed and therefore he is looking for means to hold you back. 

So, will you still allow your past to hold you back? You are a new creature in Christ Jesus. Your sins have been forgiven. God does not keep the record of your sins. So henceforth, when the devil rears his ugly head, do not hesitate to show him where he belongs. He is forever a defeated foe. Christ our Lord Reigns. 
#blazingthetrail 
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Comments

  1. Oluyinka Omotoso5 January 2020 at 23:16

    Guilt can also be termed as condemnation. It is the major weapon used by the devil to fight a believer. We should not in anyway give room for the devil in our Christian walk, he should always be treated like a defeated foe as the Word of God describes Him. You are not your past, so don't reflect on it. Your past can be a distraction to your future if you keep reflecting on it.

    Thanks for this wonderful piece ma, it really blessed me.

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  2. Oluyinka Omotoso.This is huge. Thanks so much for your profound submission on this topic.

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