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COURTSHIP TO WHOM? (CHAPTER 2)




PREPARING TO BE A HELP MEET BY DEBI PEARL

COURTSHIP TO WHOM? (CHAPTER 2)


Moral to the story :God often leads us down His path through the counsel of those who are wiser.
A caution :Stubbornness can wreck your life. High-mindedness can leave you a high and dry old maid.  

This chapter centers on a lady by name,  Lydia. She was beginning to wonder if she would ever get married at age 23. A day came in which her dad stopped by in her room, to tell her of a man seeking permission to court her. 

She was so eager to know who the man was. She was surprised when her dad mentioned a guy who was totally a stranger to her. Of course, she had seen him in different groups prior to that time, but they have never said a word to each other. 

It took an hour of persuasion from her dad before she actually agreed to give it a chance by just knowing him. 

"Nervous? Are you kidding me? I was a MESS. I mean can you imagine it happening to you? A total stranger wants to marry you... How would you feel exactly?!" Lydia

Hilly Billy came visiting in her home. When they finally met, they got along. She asked Hilly Billy several questions. The day ended and she knew that she could at least stand him. 

Lydia called Billy and told him she was going to spend the following day in fasting and prayer, so she doesn't want a distraction from him. 

She prayed, she talked with her dad. She reached out to an older woman who had wisely mentored her before on the issue, she carried her mum along too. She weighed all their counsels. Of course, they left her to her own decision even though they shared their mind with her. They were all after her happiness. 

"Where no counsel is, the people fall:but in the multitude of counsellors there is safety "Proverbs 11:14

Before she said yes to courtship, she prayed to God to please allow her fall in love with Hilly before they got married. You know he was a stranger to her. They were just getting along. 

"One month later, we were engaged. I know it seems fast, but I had full confidence and assurance from God that this was his will for me. I found safety and rest in knowing that my parents liked and admired him. I could immediately honour him because I knew he walked honest and upright before God...And yes, God answered my prayer. I felt totally and completely in love with this wonderful man. Three months later, we married. "Lydia

Lessons learnt:


  • Lydia sought the counsels those who had been on the path before her. She didn't take steps all by herself.  When you are torn in between two opinions, please talk to those who can help you out. Don't be silent over some matters. Open up. Be accountable. Mind you, be mindful of those who you share your life with. 


  • Lydia was a woman of prayer. She didn't take any step outside of God. She didn't neglect the place of seeking God because her dad told her about Hilly. She obeyed him, yet she sought the face of God concerning Billy. As singles, we should come to the point of absolute dependence of God. 


  • Lydia demonstrated patience, which is  a good virtue we all should possess either singles or married. She waited earnestly for the right man. Please hold on. Do not be in a haste. 


  • As you hold on in patience, waiting for the right one, please get something doing. Do not be lazy. Cultivate virtues. Build up yourself. Your man will definitely find you. Finally, do not be stubborn. Be flexible. God can bring your man from anywhere. Do not be rigid. 


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  1. Oluwabunmi Aregbesola18 May 2020 at 16:23

    Feel free to read, drop your comments and share.

    Thank you for visiting.

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  2. Unknown18 May 2020 at 23:56

    Waoh! Beautiful piece.
    Seek counsel and don't b rigid.

    I love that

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    1. Oluwabunmi Aregbesola19 May 2020 at 02:09

      Yes, you definitely got the point.
      Thanks so much for visiting.
      Hope to see more of you here.
      TAB

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  3. Jumoke19 May 2020 at 01:51

    Insightful

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  4. Oluwabunmi Aregbesola19 May 2020 at 02:10

    Jumoke, thank you for visiting.
    Hope to see you here more often.
    TAB

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  5. Michael Oluwapelumi19 July 2020 at 04:03

    God can bring your man from anywhere. This got me!. Thanks sisto. ������

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