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IN MENTORING LADIES, BROTHERS GET COMMON SENSE BY TRAILBLAZER AREGBESOLA BUNMI




IN MENTORING LADIES, BROTHERS GET COMMON SENSE BY TRAILBLAZER AREGBESOLA BUNMI

It is not uncommon to see many brothers who have many spiritual daughters. They are flocked with beautiful daughters. Everywhere you see them, you will always hear "my daughter". You might even mistake the lady in question for their fiancee.

Dear brother, your relationship must be defined with her or else, she might take things far beyond your thinking. 

I read a book recently on a brother who had a daughter he was mentoring. They were always found together. As you know that when two people are close and their relationship is not a defined one, infatuation may be built in the process. This lady in question fell in love with her so-called mentor. One thing led to the other and the lady had her way because the man in question was vulnerable. 

Not everyone you call daughter actually sees you as one. Some see you as prospective husband so the need to define relationships so as to avoid heartbreaking stories. 

And to you brother, God brought her to you to help, nurture and establish her you yet you don't give her breathing space. You are always over her.  You block her from meeting new people. You think you are helping her but you are not in the real sense. 

In mentoring a female as a man, know your boundaries. The other day, I saw a picture on a lady's phone where a guy was kissing a girl and she said the girl was his spiritual daughter. Who does that? I told her not to be deceived by that. Never play with her emotions, do what God asked you to do in her life and you will see that God will be able to entrust others into your hands. Jesus Christ was surrounded with so many women in his earthly ministry yet he never messed around with them. Receive strength to do same. 

And she had a sister called Mary, which also sat at Jesus' feet, and heard his word. Luke  10:39

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