DEAR BROTHER, YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH HER IS QUESTIONABLE BY OLUWABUNMI AREGBESOLA

DEAR BROTHER, YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH HER IS QUESTIONABLE 

BY OLUWABUNMI AREGBESOLA

REFLECTION :

I have been friends with some brothers before. We could do bible study together, pray together and do some things together. I do those things out of sincerity. I never had any motive of being in relationship with them. I would be so surprised when they start asking for relationship. It was when I became wise that I stopped all those things. I realized that the person I could be doing that with is who I am engaged to, or with my female friends. You may have a different motive sister, but the brother might have another plan. 

Why do you think you could pray better when it is with the opposite sex? 

You think you could only ascend higher realms only with that sister. 

Even your calls are questionable. You are the first person to call her before she wakes up from sleep and the last person to call her before she sleeps. 

We always see you together . You can't assimilate what you are reading if she is not reading with you. What is wrong with you sir? 

You keep buying her gifts and all that. You have turned to father Christmas just because of her. And when we ask you your motive, you keep saying she is just a friend. 

Your texts to her are not edifying. They are the texts that send wrong signals. 

You have blocked the pathway for the right brother to come in. 

You keep visiting her without any sensible reason.

She even cooks delicacies for you. 

She keeps falling into your traps just because she is vulnerable. 

Why are you like this? 

When Jesus was left with that woman at the well, he never tried nonsense with her. Though they were alone, but Jesus knew his boundary. Throughout his stay here, he never had any questionable relationship. 

Stop misrepresenting us sir. 

Who told you, you can't grow spiritually without the help of the innocent sister? 

Who told you that you can only share secrets with the sister and not with a brother like you? 

Know this, she is the apple of God's eyes. 

She is also important in the plan of God. 

Don't impair her vision with your incessant care. 

Please give her space and let her grow. 

Let her also concentrate. 

She is also your sister.